著名女作家 *楊絳*e

於2016 年 5月，高齡105 歲過世. 

下面是她在103 歲時(shí)的一段鼓勵：

Below is a message of famous novelist 楊絳 (YANG JIANG)written at age of 103, who passed away at age 105 on May 2016:

善待暮年

Be Kind to Twilight Years

花開花謝，潮起潮落，

不經(jīng)意間我們正走向人生的暮年。

Seasons after seasons, we are unknowingly approaching our twilight years.

從呱呱墜地到兩鬢染霜，

歲月的行囊裡裝滿了酸甜苦辣。

接下來，

在夕陽的路上能走多遠(yuǎn)，

取決於我們的體魄和心態(tài)。

From the first cry on coming to the earth till the hairs turn grey, the baggage of our journey through life has filled with all bitterness and sweetness as well as ups and downs. Next,  how happy can we be on the path of our twilight years will depend on our physical  mental condition.

在曾經(jīng)的歲月裡，

每個(gè)人都會有大小不一的光環(huán)，

但這光環(huán)已是“過去式”。

當(dāng)光環(huán)退去，

誰都是柴米油鹽，誰都是一介布衣。

Life's glory and splendor are all behind us and we are now just going through the daily chores of keeping life going.

“我們曾如此渴望命運(yùn)的波瀾，

到最後才發(fā)現(xiàn)：

人生最曼妙的風(fēng)景，

竟是內(nèi)心的淡定與從容。

Once we yearned for a glamorous life, now we realize the most wonderful and  beautiful scenery in life are moments of tranquility.

不要滿懷焦灼期待子女?；丶铱纯?。

子女們有各自的生活和事業(yè)，

他們像永不停歇的陀螺一樣，

上有老下有小，

“老”是“夕陽”，

“小”是“朝陽”。

“朝陽”總比“夕陽”

更令人關(guān)注和憧憬，

這是動物繁衍生息的法則，

是規(guī)律，

誰也不能違背。

記住，

年輕人永遠(yuǎn)比老年人忙。

Do not anxiously  waiting for the visits of our children. They have their own lives to take care of; they are like tops being spun continuously, sandwiched between the young and old. The old one is the evening sun, whereas the  young is the morning sun, and of course  the young  will get more attention; this is nature's law.  It is human race survival cycle and no one can defy it. Please remember: our children is always more busy than us.

人生，

夫妻也好，母女父子也罷，

不管是怎樣的水乳交融、

心心相繫，

每個(gè)人都是生命的獨(dú)立個(gè)體，

因此，

我們要學(xué)會在孤獨(dú)的時(shí)候給自己安慰，

在寂寞的時(shí)候給自己溫暖。

In life whether it is husband and wife or parents and children , no matter how harmonious and how close they are, each one is unique and an independent entity. Therefore we need to learn to cope with loneliness by finding ways to console and cheer ourselves up when feeling lonely.

老要有老的風(fēng)骨，

老要有老的優(yōu)雅，

正如春華秋實(shí)，

四季輪迴，各有風(fēng)采。

In reaching our golden age, we have our self esteem and graciousness just like the cycle of four seasons, each has its own grace and beauty. Smile & enjoy each phase of life.

暮年是美好生活的開始，

是一種從容、恬闊、

悠哉遊哉的狀態(tài)。

願我們保持一顆寧靜的心，

少些期盼、多些寬容，

寵辱不驚、去留無礙，

微笑向前，

善待暮年的自己。

Twilight years is the beginning of a good phase  in life. It is calm, peaceful, unhurried and joyful. We have to maintain peace, less demanding , more accomodative  and forgiving, not to over react when receiving attention or being ignored. To stay or to go does not matter anymore. Keep smiling while moving ahead each day and be kind to ourselves.

Being honest and sincere will make friendships last.

Do not expect for a return on whatever  you have given to others, after all, making others happy is life's greatest achievement.  ????