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以前在論壇和人打仗，得出一個(gè)結(jié)論就是在網(wǎng)上誰(shuí)也說服不了誰(shuí)。上一篇文章剛好說到一些贏得爭(zhēng)論的技巧，是真的誰(shuí)也說服不了誰(shuí)，還是我們太想贏了？
- 永遠(yuǎn)不要斥責(zé)對(duì)方的錯(cuò)誤。
- 如果發(fā)現(xiàn)自己錯(cuò)了，馬上承認(rèn)。
- 保持愉快。
- 想辦法讓對(duì)手說“對(duì)”。
- 讓對(duì)方盡情說。讓他們黔驢技窮，言多必失。
- 保持寬容，善于接受。我們都承認(rèn)自己會(huì)犯錯(cuò)誤，還怕什么?
- 讓對(duì)方說出你想要的結(jié)論。
- 善于運(yùn)用對(duì)方的需求和愿望。
- 以德服人。
- 如果你有確鑿的證據(jù)，拿出來(lái)。
- 找到能夠挑戰(zhàn)對(duì)方觀點(diǎn)的論據(jù)，讓他們啞口無(wú)言。
- 保持冷靜。爭(zhēng)論往往讓大家熱血上頭，但總是保持冷靜的那一方得勝。
說實(shí)話，第一點(diǎn)我就從來(lái)沒有做到過，想想也是，斥責(zé)對(duì)方的錯(cuò)誤只能讓別人樹起一堵墻，立刻就讓說服對(duì)方成為不可能。想要說服別人，贏得爭(zhēng)論，真是還有很多技巧啊。 “十二個(gè)贏得爭(zhēng)論的要素”–來(lái)自
12 Keys To Winning an Argument
Aguments are an all too common part of life. They should be avoided if possible. But, if you can’t avoid them you may as well win.
Here’s how.
- Never Accuse your opponent of being wrong.
- If you realize you made a mistake admit it immediately.
- Be pleasant.
- Get your opponent saying “yes” It is a proven technique.
- Let them talk. “Enough rope,” “digging a hole” all that.
- Be receptive. We’ve already established we could be wrong.
- Make it their idea.
- Play on their wants.
- Plea for righteousness. Every body wants “whats right.’
- Back it up. If you’ve got data, use it.
- Issue a challenge. Men especially will fall for this.
- Be a Cool Hand Luke. Aguments can get emotional. It is to your advantage to be the calm rational one.
There you have it, now play nice.
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